THanks, everyone. Yeah, there was today (as every day) a lot of "did you take care of this? Why didn't you take care of that? I know such and such wouldn't get done." It's absolutely demeaning. I'm way less organized than he is and he is an extremely anal retentive type a. I know I should be more on top of things, but it seems I'm always behind on something and he gets on my case.
Today was a more positive day, however, in that we TALKED about the things that needed to be done in a relatively calm way. Anyone who knows my sitch knows that H usually blasts me with anger and criticism, then blocks any talks. He actually stayed relatively calm and I kept validating and listening - "you're right", "thank you for the reminder" and eventually had to say what Mongoose suggested - "I'm working on these things and I appreciate the reminders and try to see that in the big picture, I am being more organized." H went off on a lecture as to why "the real world" works on deadlines with no slack - a constant criticism that I'm not in the "real world". Very hurtful. H said it would be a better role model for Z if I were more organized. I had to explain that for the one or two things he notices that slipped through the cracks, I'm organizing my son and my life every day. I get a lot of things done.
Well it was still hurtful that he is so unforgiving, but I did stand up for myself and then I just dropped it. Sure I need to work on being more organized. H needs to work on being more flexible and forgiving as well.
