I need to get to a computer. Navigating and typing on this phone is too cumbersome.
W called me out on being out of the house so much after I returned home last night. She's NEVER been that way. She said that S has been missing me. She asked me what I have been up to and told me I have been acting suspicions.
I told her that I was preparing for her to leave. Developing my new life since it won't be with her like I had wanted. I also said that S will go days without seeing me once she moves out so we'll need to get used to it.
She told me that she thought we'd still e together all of the time and thought that I would go to her place to see him. I responded by telling her that once she moves out she has left. I had no intentions on going there. It would be a place of horrible association for me.
It seems like this was the first that she has felt that she would actually be without me.
Not much R talk today but she's been very affectionate.
It sounds like you should spend more time with your son. It is good for you, it is good for him. I have come so much closer with my daughters over this past year and I am grateful for it. I am a better dad now than I was a year ago, and it is the improvement that I am most proud of.
It sounds like you are doiing well. I think the affection after her being angry is a very good sign. Be a gentleman, but continue to GAL.
I am not sure saying to your W that your S needs to get use to not seeing you is a good idea though. Let her know that you will fight for every minute of his time. Believe me, I was a little apprehensive of taking D5 & D3 by myself for 50% of the time at first (I wasn't sure how well I would handle it); but now I will have it no other way.
Funny thing is that I am VERY close to my boy. This was the first Saturday in nearly a year that wasn't spent with him. I've been home to tuck him in nearly every night. I think she was reaching for a reason. She was upset seeing me GAL and couldn't complain about me being out without sounding like a hipocrite. Months back she was quite the rolling stone. S and I went to every event and venue in town. She missed out because she refused to go or was hung over. (she hasn't been this way in a number of months)
I don't think she has had any thought of what being separated would really look like. It sounds like it has just been seen as the magic pill to happiness. She honestly thought we'd have two houses and she could make all of her decisions without having to consider anyone else (me).
My boy and I spent some time together todah. Played with the dog and watched a dvd in our basement theater.
W has been REALLY affectionate throughout the day. She pulled me into the bedroom three times! (she didn't have to pull too hard as I wasn't fighting)
Tomorrow will be interesting. I'll e sure to keep it light hearted.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
And DO NOT stop GAL'ing. Be careful not to lie to her. But, it's ok to be vague.
I am very honest when asked, but I did make a point to be vague when I left.
Boy oh oy...she didn't like it. It was kind of nice to see that it bugged her. She was so indifferent a few weeks ago. It was nice to see that she at least cared.
I've got tomorrow off of work. I'll be sure to come up with something to do while S is at school since W will be at home during the day.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
How's it going? Hey = I got a recommendation for a comedic novel - still interested?
I'm still up for the games and the book. I had an extended weekend withour access to a real computer. I was using my phone for a couple of posts, but it was kind of a pain.
How's it going? I really don't know. From the outside, I'd say it's going great. After I told W Saturday night that I was preparing for my new life without her, we spent Sunday together and she was very affectionate. We ML multiple times at her direction (I kissed her neck while hugging, so I may have primed the pump, but I didn't initiate the ML).
She slept in with my Sunday night. I was off work yesterday and spent most of it working on household projects in the garage. She came out and initiated conversations with me regularly throughout the day. It was clear that she wanted to spend time with me, but felt funny about being up front about it. She mentioned on a number of occasions on how I must hate her so it became a parody. I told her "I hate you" in the tone of ILY. She responded back "I hate you too" in a very loving manner. Weird yes, but it worked at the time.
She was like the old her yesterday. She initiated hugs and even feined jealousy when a scantily clad woman in a TV show caught my attention. We watched TV together Sunday and Monday nights like we used to. I haven't heard about the GF in a couple days (a record for the past couple of years).
W went to bed in "her" room last night, but came knocking on my door about an hour later. We spent the night curled up together (no LMing, which was believe it or not nice). She even pulled me in for a hug before I left this morning.
I'd say it's going great, from the outside looking in. The problem is that we've been here before and it's gone away. She hasn't said she's staying either. The way she's been she could just see this as "nice" but still feel the need to go.
I'll get around to checking in on everyone's sitch's now that I am back to a computer.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
