Good Luck with the retreat! Curious to hear your take on it. I haven't asked H about a retreat because he wasn't even open to counseling. But if by some crazy chance it becomes an option - would love to hear a guy's take on it.
Well, me being the Grand Poobah and Head Mo-Fo In Charge of the Loyal Order of Heathen and all, I'm not going to be so hypocritical as to say that I'll pray for you, my brother, but I will mos' def' fire up some Van Van oil to help keep your mojo workin'.
Sitting here in church this morning and a quote from today's gospel reading struck me as relevant to my sitch - particularly to the discussions a month or so re the conflict between Mrs. Thinker and my parents:
Mark 10:2-16
"God made them, male and female. For this reason a man shall leave his mother and father and be joined to his wife."
The rest of the reading harps on the unity of marriage and the wrongness of divorce, but that wasn't my focus.
I chose this past Sunday to start going to church again & this was the gospel. I only wish my W would've gone to church w/ me. It would've been interesting, considering the subject matter.
Me-39 W-31 S-4 Bomb- 9/5/09 Discovered EA- 9/15/09 Found "proof" that EA is most likely a PA- 10/8/09 W moved out 10/31/09
Considering the subject matter, I'm glad my W was NOT there. She would have (mentally) run.
She is tentatively moving in the right direction now, but it is clear that she is not going to be forced or coerced there by anyone...including the church.
Your W has to make up her own mind etrain. For her own reasons and through her own thought process.
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I was actually focused on the part about LEAVING his mother and father and joining his wife. This is relevant to the fact that in my past I have placated my parents at the expense of my wife - really damaging my relationship. What I needed to do was stand up for my wife.
(I don't want to re-open this, as it was all discussed on earlier posts. I was just noting the thought)
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
