Nope. No filing. And the truth was only revealed a few days ago...up until then it was kind alluded to. Even now, I don't know what is really going on with OW. I mean, he is really struggling to step out of his connection with me and his role within our family.
Honestly, I realized today that I am traumatized (used loosely but literally) and that I probably should not be dating anyone.
However, I am going on a date tonight. Therapist tomorrow.
H says he is messed up and wants help. We shall see. I can't get into the whole story but we had a moment with S9 that was so precious and really melted us together...it is just a sad story of two wounded people who don't know how to feel okay with each other anymore...
I know from reading on here and from watching my friends that the paper divorce means little and the emotional divorce is the hardest part. That is why I don't focus so much on it. The marriage is dead, the connection is not.
