She then says "I just didn't think you'd get over this so quickly". I guess that is the phrase I am supposed to be working toward hearing....but it hurt. I'm not over her, not by a long shot...but she thinks I am. Again, that is the DB goal, right? I told her that it isn't easy for me, but I have to face the reality...we are seeing an attorney on Monday.
She then got upset and said that she couldn't talk anymore, that she never thought that 11 years of marriage could be "gotten over" so quickly and she was hanging up because she was mad.
So, tell me...is this a good thing, or a bad thing? I honestly have no idea.
I'm no DB expert, but this sounds very good to me. If she didn't care, she wouldn't be saying this stuff. The reconciliations I've read about often start with the WAW getting angry over the LBH apparently acting so fine with everything. They don't like it. They want to be important to you. You're sending the message that if they aren't your W, they aren't as important to you as they'd like to be. So they makes them face the reality of losing you. She's feeling the 'vacuum' where you used to be in her mind and in her life. It confuses her because she didn't think she'd care this much, and that confusion is making her angry.
Hang in there and hold your ground. If she wants you to feel more strongly about her and your M, let her come out and say it.
This is all so very true. My W said much the same stuff to me. She questioned how much I could really love her if according to her perception I wasn't "fighting for her" enough. Her & I still have much to work our way through but with the Lord's great assistance we are progressing toward restoration each and every day.
