Hi HBH. I thought this for a long time too. It's not true. You were thinking that your W would handle problems in a way that fell within the boundaries of your marriage vows. This is a reasonable thought and you want to give the one you love the benefit of the doubt. This is natural. So it turned out to be wrong, it does not make you an idiot. You made reasonable assumptions.
Thanks Tristan! - definitely got to keep trying to keep this in mind. It is hard because these WAW situations are so illogical and it is too easy to start thinking that it is all my fault somehow.
