Hi HBH! So sorry to hear about your situation. I interesting thing is that you seem to be a male version of me...and my H is acting just like your W! We also are still in the same house and our situation is so, so similar to the things you've shared. I am struggling to with how to handle this. Mostly I'm trying to remember to keep up my own life and be as happy as I can be day to day. I treat him according to what I read in Light his Fire and that advice has been spot on so far but also combined with the DB principles of not pursuing or pushing. Our communication is improving more & more which is great! But other than that mostly my situation is just as up in the air as anyones here.
H wouldn't go to MC so I did...frankly it has been a waste of time mostly. The MC would not have been able to get through to H at all if he'd gone! Honestly it probably would have made things worse. Much, much more good advice and value through being on this forum and from reading certain books! (Mars/Venus, Light His Fire, Divorce Busting)
Don't have any brillant advice because it's so day to day here in our home too! Each day brings new challenges.
