Thinker i read your thread. Took a couple of days but i did it. I really hope retro will help you out. My wife does not want to go to retro as she feels that our M too is unfixable. She states that our trust is broken beyond repair. I do not believe there is such a thing beyond repair. I have learned one thing. Talk is cheap and mostly ineffective. You want to repair trust? just do it. We are still going to MC and we had a small breakthrough last week. My w waffles back and forth admitting to this. One day she said she felt something, and the next she is back to i don't know what happened. All of this happened because of snooping. Snooping destroys trust. But how do we stop snooping if we are suspicious. You have every right to be suspicious from what i have read. But in my humble opinion you want to repair trust, you have to show your wife you trust her. There will be backslides. SOmeone has to take a leap of faith, which is probably the hardest thing to do with an OM. My wife insists that in order to start over i have to divorce her and if she comes back it was meant to be. I want to let her go, but i do not want a divorce. Ironic.
Everything is so hard. Please let us know how retro works out for you. Looks like it worked well for orich.
