Magnificent

[mishka422]

Venting.......

So I was brushing my teeth this morning and my phone started ringing. It was Marc. Very strange for him to call me when he's at his dad's so I grabbed the phone, toothbrush in mouth, mumbling around the foam. Marc sounded pretty dejected and said he was coming home. I asked if he meant now, he said yes, right now. I asked him why and he admitted that he and ow's son got into an argument and Marc ended up scratching him on the forehead. I, once again, told him that he had no business engaging ow's son in any kind of argument as he is 6 years younger. Just walk away and certainly never touch him in any way. Marc said he knew that but he was just so upset and ow's son wouldn't stop pestering him. I hung up with him and thought about it a few minutes, calming myself, because once again Gabe has decided it is better to just bring Marc back to me instead of parenting him while it is his time with him.

I called Gabe then and asked him to explain what happened. His explanation was the same. I then asked him why he felt it was appropriate to 'punish' Marc by bringing him home instead of being a parent and handling the situation there. He said he has done that over and over...blah blah blah...I did haul off with a snide comment about how being a parent a couple of times a month was not over and over and if he couldn't handle him for that short a time then perhaps we need to reevaluate these weekends and that's when he had a very mature response.....he said 'don't start on me' and hung up. His typical reaction to being confronted with anything. He doesn't want to talk about anything that remotely reminds him that he's not 'father of the year' material. Yes, I was snarky. I know that. I really don't care at the moment. He is once again running from responsibility.

I called him back, left him a vm (since he wouldn't answer the phone) telling him that it was an immature response and stating that if he couldn't or didn't want to maintain weekends with Marc that was fine and he could have minimal contact with him from now on. Not a problem. No response.

I texted him the question I wanted to ask him. "And is ow's son being sent home too?" His response...."yes, he is". I see, so neither one of them is adult enough to parent their child. Good job!

Marc then called me again. Said his dad is taking him to a movie to spend more time with him. I was glad to hear that at least Gabe thought about what I said about the point of these visits being to spend time with him, not to entertain ow's son. I did text Gabe again to tell him I was glad that he was spending more time today with Marc.

You know, I know how I probably sound. I sound very b!tchy. It's not lost on me, but I get really nasty when my baby is treated like a second class person by his own father. He is treated as an annoyance in Gabe's perfect little happy life being oblivious of the damage he caused to our son with his actions. Then, for him to reject Marc over and over because of his behavior it's just a slap in the face to me and more pain for Marc.

So....vent over. I'm getting it out in order to let it go. I hope it's working.