The Thread With No Home

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((((((Jackie))))))

This is a tough time, Jackie. I can't read all the posts here right now, but just skimming a few sounds like a rough several days. You are right in thinking that the boys are kids who are excited about something new. One thing that has occurred to me when my children have said things like this is that what they are saying is that they love their dad, they need him and want to have his love and time. What it sounds like sometimes is that they don't want/love me, but that's not what they are saying. This doesn't completely take the sting out of it, but it helps a little bit. All the same, the comments still hurt, even though they don't intend it that way. Lee is right that the boys will appreciate what you have done/are doing in a few years. You are doing a tremendous job taking care of the boys - I know it's tough to be the one who is saying it's time for bed, time for school, no, you can't eat cookies for breakfast, etc. You are showing amazing strength and dignity. You have been and are the stable factor in the boys' lives.

Could your H keep the boys so you could have some time to yourself? You could maybe go to a hotel for a night or two. You could have some time to yourself to cry/journal/pray, and then some time for doing something nice for you - a massage/a nice hike/get your nails done. Is this a possibility?

Hang in there, Jackie. ((((Jackie))))