How to treat W who goes out every weekend?

[Buttercup37]

Sounds like you handled things very well! I think from how you described the email it seemed very appropriate. If you felt something should be said then that was a good way to do it and not be enabling for this situation.

I'm in agreement about compliments! No such thing as too much honest compliments. Don't forget to also compliment her on things she stands for, strengths, and signs of the qualities you fell in love with. LHF and Other sources say to 'catch her doing good things'....and be quiet about the negative stuff (although there might be cases where you need to carefully state your feelings...Patience, yes but nobody should be walked on and be expected to not state their feelings)

Hang in there! The positive side of her going out is that she will see how many slimy guys are out there that can't hold a candle to you!!

[TooLateForMe]

Thinking back, she may have been angry when she left the party. She was drunk, so I'm not so bothered by that. No answer to my text asking if she would tell me that she got home okay. I think I'll let her reopen lines of communication and let her be.

[TooLateForMe]

And (obsession, I know) I also think she was telling me things about how she's so okay with the breakup (repeatedly), she signed up for an online dating site, and was on a pseudo-date w/ her friend that night in order to hurt me or get a reaction. I gave her nothing (yay me). I was supportive and sweet. Problem is if she's out to hurt me then I can't continue being her friend. Should I let her know that this behavior isn't acceptable and would like more NC time? Specifying that it isn't the words or even the actions but the attitude of trying to upset me.