Hoping WAW will someday see through the fog....

[mishka422]

I agree with Ant about talking to your s12. He's old enough to have that honest explanation. S10 is a different story. He's hurting badly from his mother's actions and needs to express it. Obviously, in her selfish haze, she is not able to respond appropriately to him. That is horrible, but then again I think all WAS's are horrible so no surprise.

Do you have counseling set up for the kids? If not, why not? Get them into counseling ASAP. They need to deal with their emotions in a non-threatening environment.

I can't really relate to how your kids are reacting because my son is autistic and didn't react in the way most kids would. I didn't really have to deal with all of that. I've talked with him at length but he doesn't have anything to say other than his dad wanted someone else and left. The end.

I hope you are able to get your kids some help ASAP.