My Intro: Thanks for Reading!

[billclay18]

Ready to get the D started. If she were, she would have already, she wouldn't care that you mentioned a lawyer.

Good point. Problem is, there isn't incentive for her to end the marriage. She can see other people and be in the best situation she's likely to be in (financially , etc.) for some time to come.

There is incentive for OM for her to end her marriage. How patient do you think he will be? Do you think she wants to continue like this indefinitely?

You asked her to reconcile in July and from what I read have pursued her continuously until just recently. I believe I read in one of your recent post you telling her you didn't want a D and still loved her. What do you call that?

Thats a good point. So are you saying that I need to completely withdraw committment of love and willingness to reconcile in order to do this last stage of DBing completely?

Yes, she knows how you feel and knows what you want. Has it made a difference? That hasn't worked...do something else.

Really? You already stated you give her twice what the state requires financially in your separation agreement, an agreement which often sets the precedent for the final agreement. Nope...no need to worry.

That really concerns me. It was never my intent to think of the agreement as anything long-term or sustainable.

It can be. Courts can take the attitude "if this works, why change it".