There is no rhyme or reason to your situation, but I do think your xh is a very dangerous man and will do just about anything to make you jump through hoops. My take is that he is still paying someone in your area to keep tabs on you and also the officials there are in his pocket. He's painted you as this awful woman he had to get away from. It doesn't matter that you are not. The more you try to defend yourself, the deeper the hole is getting.
I am going to go against a lot of wisdom here and advise you to lay low for a while. Do not contact your daughter...do what you can behind the scenes, but let the dust settle. Just like a mlcer, the more you try, the harder she's pulling away. Give her space, time and have faith that things will turn around. I know that this isn't what you want to hear, but she's got to learn to miss her family, friends, etc. and the only way to do that is sit quietly, do not contact her and be patient.
Your xh is a "N" personality and you know have read enough to know that when they feel threatened, they will go after you with every fiber of their being. He's doing that and will continue until he's completely destroyed you and your family. It's very important that you step back for just a little bit.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
