How to treat W who goes out every weekend?

[TooLateForMe]

Thanks.

My gut tells me that I have little control over the "fog" she's in. Mine was lifted when I realized I was losing the greatest person I've ever known. The loss was too great. I can't imagine what will snap her out of it. She has to realize on her own that her path is actually the more painful one.

The impulse it treat her like the smart and rational person I've known for so long. I see that she isn't those things right now. I represent lost youth to her. If I tell her to stop and grow up then I lose her.

I think I can only reinforce to her that I am changing. Be close when I can, tell her she's beautiful... all the things she's wanted from me. Even after all that, I think she'll have to be shocked back to sanity like I was.

I did send the email. I said I didn't judge and sympathized because I had felt something similar.

But I think I'll have my heart broken a few more times before she wakes up or I can't take it anymore and move on. In the meantime I move forward.