What I am inartfully trying to say is that it appears that a WAS is guided by what they feel, their emotions, more than a well thought out plan. That's not to say the WAS does not have a plan. My perception is just that the WAS may be influenced more than most by emotion.
Now, that said, I am not discounting the LBS' role in getting the M to where it is. I am also not suggesting the WAS does not have reason to feel the way they do.
So, if I gave the impression the WAS is flawed somehow, that was not my intent.
It seems to me the dynamic b/w the logical spouse and emotional spouse changes one to the other throughout this process.
Agreed. Basically, I believe that her pain in staying outweighed her pain of leaving. Now though, after 8 months of separation...I am hurt by her decision and motivation to go ahead and divorce me.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
