Thanks guys. Very good advice. Before the affair that is how I looked at it Grace. The affair changes my view, but you're right, I felt better, healthier with my original outlook which was exactly how you suggested I see it. I'll get there again. Hopefully.
I think I may have misjudged somethings. Based on what he was saying (why did I believe him? I knew/know better) he was over her. He's not. I think he's NOW mourning the loss of that relationship.
I need to go back and read DB about this time when the WAS or MLCer is getting over the OP. I remember bits and pieces but I have to refresh and see how to handle it. It sucks.
I'm over the job loss. And it's a pretty high profile job....we both have them now. His more so than mine, but still pretty high profile jobs. And so that's what it comes down too, the hiring managers want no drama from the person who would get that position because there's enough in the day to day, the personal drama wouldn't help. I understand and I couldn't prove the filing stopped me. I got it around the way and the person who told me, also high profile, made it clear she wouldn't be involved and would deny giving me the information. Again, I understand.
I'm home now. It's been nice. I've been fighting myself internally. Wondering "How can we recover? He fell in love with someone else. How can he come back to what he was trying to leave after finding love and happiness somewhere else?"
I have some answers that help keep me in this....but I would love to hear everyone's opinion....answers to those questions. I need some encouragement. It's sort of dark here even though he's being great. I'm really fighting to just STFU and not tell him "You know what....here, here's your divorce."
