I agree with optimist. Just continue to be civil - no need to go the extra mile with small talk.
About the baptism - is it okay for you to excuse yourself? It might do you good to get away from family and drown yourself in your scrapebook open house. It is nice to be able to do things that have little to do with D or famiy when you are living in limboland. It often provides a much needed break.
Quote: I'm so confused. I don't know what the right thing is to do.
I think at this moment the only right thing to do is to take care of Jackie. You are under too much stress, trying to be there for the kids, figuring what can get you closer to your H, wondering why and when and how...
Forget it. Just for this once do exactly what you feel like doing. Go to the baptism, or the fair, or the lake... Whatever you think will give Jackie some time and space and peace.
There will be a next day, and a next week and a next year...
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"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
You guys are right, I'm so sick of doing the "right" thing, always putting family functions (not like there are very many, which is why I always feel inclined to go), but seeing his brother and wife at the beginning stages of starting a family will just be too much for me. I can't do it, it is too sad for me. I guess I'll send a nice card and check and let H make my excuses.
Wow, this is new for me. Blowing off the family. See if I can stick to it.
I told my mom how a few people on the BB thought the way she is treating my H was great. My mom told me that she is praying for you. I thought you would like to know that!
Thanks Nik! I'm trying to teach my mom by example, she doesn't get the unconditional love bit.
Opt, I didn't go to the baptism. The boys went and they all came home in great moods, how wonderful everything was, the boys just loved the babies and making them laugh. S7 got to participate in the service. So, I felt quite left out and a bit down and apparently no one even asked where I was! Shows how much of an impact I have made on that side of the family the past 17 years!
Berto, the game broke my heart. Halloween was a disaster. 15 minutes before we had to go out, S7 was getting dressed in his very complicated costume (the alien in the Family Fun magaize), I have him almost ready, and he has to go to the bathroom. He goes, we start dressing again, has to go again and throws up! So no trick or treating for him, but no problem, next night he is to have party at friends house., so I'll get pics of thim then. Next night, same thing, but no puking, but stomach upset and he just wants to wear his old powerranger costume. I spent two weeks on this costume, running to various stores to get supplies, and he didn't wear it! His stomach has been acting up a lot, I don't know if he is picking up on what is going on. H leaves on Wednesday, must tell them soon.
Hope the little guy is feeling better now.