Have to agree with Alex. My wife told me on many occasions that I was the perfect husband, great father, and could never be happier with anyone else. Just a few months after the last time she said this (still have the email) she's in an affair and I had caused her great pain for many years, that it was all my fault, and she tried talking to me for a long time. There were absolutely no letters, no conversations, nothing stating a problem. (I had actually tried talking to her before the A because I thought we were growing apart) I own the faults that I'm aware of, but none of them were big enough to push anyone away IMHO, and I truly have no idea why she left. She won't tell me. (this certainly isn't your case LL)

Back to the original post. I think a lot of people don't want to change until they're forced to.... or it's their idea. That is human nature, my job revolves around changing behaviour in the workplace for safety, deal with it all the time.

I wish my wife would have written me letters, did 180's, ANYTHING!

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