I'm asking this advice once I realized that new LBSs will encounter the same issue that I found - so many approaches, which one applies to the particular situation situation, why, and what the consequence of that path will bring. I wanted to start this thread so that we can capture a higher level of direction/guidance for the new LBS.

For me, I'm only into this 10 wks and have decided that we must go to the D route because our M is slowly dying. I think my MLC W deep down doesn't want it, but until I change the situation, nothing will change and she will continue her cake-eating. In the short-term, it will tell me if she really wants the M or wants out. If she wants out, then we simply end the pain faster for all of us. Reconciliation can come in 2-5 yrs from now, if it comes at all, as far as I'm concerned. I'm at peace with my decision to push for the D. Filing of paperwork is this week.

Me:49 W:49
M:26.5 years
S21, S17
Bomb: around 2004 ILYBINILWY
EA: 07-17-2009

Last edited by 71potc; 10/04/09 06:46 AM.
Me:49 W:49
M:26.5 years
S21, S17
Bomb: around 2004 ILYBINILWY
EA: 07-2009