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[billclay18]

I wouldn't do anything right now. Her reaction to you mentioning a lawyer tells me she's not quite ready for that step. Although the two of you talked about working out an agreement yourselves, you'd both be foolish not to consult lawyers before attempting to reach an agreement, so you doing so shouldn't have been met with such disdain.

You've been pursuing her like crazy for months and have only recently backed off and truly started DB'ing. Give her space and let it play out.

If and when the time comes, I strongly advise you to let the lawyers handle it. Saves you additional emotional upheaval and I'd hate to see you agree to something out of guilt or ignorance to the system that screws you for years to come.

I realize the last thing you want to do is screw your W over and I'm not suggesting that, just don't screw yourself in an effort to "make things right". Nothing about this is right.

As far as waiting 8 months, my D took 29 months so you're just getting started.