I think you're right on the differences between male and female there Nell. That's why I think you'll enjoy 'Why Women Talk....' My H is the same. He'll even go so far as to say things don't bother him but his actions show something else altogether.
If media is correct and Evert and Norman were having an affair to begin I just find it interesting that it really didn't last very long. Supports the theory that affairs don't usually end up happily ever after.