I see Nell....... always looking for practical solutions and obviously that's not one of them! I have quite a large family and it's interesting to see how each handles these issues so differently. Some have never even mentioned H's name again, almost as if he died. Others mention him in mocking/derogatory tones, others are concerned for his well being(and mine) and still others made contact with him. Just shows how different we all are! However, the overwhelming majority just want me to walk away and forget him. I don't tell my family that ultimately I wish he'd come back. They just don't get it and they don't want me to go on hurting. They have a point and I'm nearly at the end but I think I'm waiting for the business to sell and for settlement to occur and then I think the book is closed for me. then I can say, i gave it everything.
I don't really care what others think!They weren't there when he slept at the hospital with me all night when I was scared. they weren't there when he was at every chemo or driving back to get new medications for me or cleaning up after me. It's all up to me. It's all up to you Nell, too. You make the choices for you and you alone!
Something that bothers me a bit is that when my BIL and his wife came here to visit they didn't contact me. They spent lots of time with H and saw the kids but not me. I found that hurtful given that I have been part of the family for so long. It's like they've taken sides and since H and I don't have sides I feel a bit pi$$ed.
