My guess is she'd def. scared to talk about it. But looking at the positive - she didn't shut you down. Remember BABY STEPS!!
OK, let's play this out, hypothetically. Why would she be scared to talk about this?
It's the acknowledgment of the "current situation" but choosing not to alk about it at all that has me perplexed. If she felt pressure from me bringing this up, I would expect to get push back and/or pull back. I got neither.
So, in all probability, one would think it is more likely she hasn't made up her mind, but, at a minimum, she is not dead set on D right now. That could explain why she didn't bring it up - she doesn't know what to say. B/c she still doesn't know what she wants - D or R. .
Ok, so she's scared to say anything b/c she doesn't want to say the wrong thing. Until her mind is made up, she won't open her mouth and screw it up. I only wish my H was that cautious! Give her the benefit of the doubt. There is some reason she didn't bring it up - perhaps it's a good reason that will save you both some stress???
