Gotta Keep Trying 2

[Greek]

Do everything in the spirit of Love at your event with the children, SIL, STPMOM, and beloved...and you won't go wrong.

Cheers ~~~
Greek

[givingitmyall]

Do everything in the spirit of Love at your event with the children, SIL, STPMOM, and beloved...and you won't go wrong.

Cheers ~~~
Greek

Great advice. Coach has been telling me that too. More from the do things out of love for W - not b/c of an expectation.

[Greek]

You get it. Bravo.

Apologies to the S9 Fla. fan! We can taste that game!

Cheers ~
Greek

[givingitmyall]

You get it. Bravo.

Apologies to the S9 Fla. fan! We can taste that game!

Cheers ~
Greek

It gets worse. My dad played football for the Lizards as well.

I'm pulling for you guys to upset them next week. We will be at Disney with the kids, but S and I will want to see the game.

[Butterfly1]

My guess is she'd def. scared to talk about it. But looking at the positive - she didn't shut you down. Remember BABY STEPS!!

OK, let's play this out, hypothetically. Why would she be scared to talk about this?

It's the acknowledgment of the "current situation" but choosing not to alk about it at all that has me perplexed. If she felt pressure from me bringing this up, I would expect to get push back and/or pull back. I got neither.

So, in all probability, one would think it is more likely she hasn't made up her mind, but, at a minimum, she is not dead set on D right now. That could explain why she didn't bring it up - she doesn't know what to say. B/c she still doesn't know what she wants - D or R.
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Ok, so she's scared to say anything b/c she doesn't want to say the wrong thing. Until her mind is made up, she won't open her mouth and screw it up. I only wish my H was that cautious! Give her the benefit of the doubt. There is some reason she didn't bring it up - perhaps it's a good reason that will save you both some stress???

[givingitmyall]

Thanks Hope. We will see. Just plan on being supportive and having some fun tomorrow.

[goodattitudegirl]

GIMA,

My feminine instincts say that Greek's feedback is right on. It sounds as though your W is a bit afraid to rock the boat. This wouldn't be the case if she was dead set on a course of action.

You fold laundry AND you help clean the house for your daughter's B-day party too??????? Be still my heart! There isn't a woman alive whose heart wouldn't melt in response to THOSE considerate actions. Keep the momentum going tomorrow. Hope your family has a wonderful day tomorrow!

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[givingitmyall]

GIMA,

My feminine instincts say that Greek's feedback is right on. It sounds as though your W is a bit afraid to rock the boat. This wouldn't be the case if she was dead set on a course of action.

You fold laundry AND you help clean the house for your daughter's B-day party too??????? Be still my heart! There isn't a woman alive whose heart wouldn't melt in response to THOSE considerate actions. Keep the momentum going tomorrow. Hope your family has a wonderful day tomorrow!

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I dusted too! Felt a little poofey doing that!

Thanks for your feminine input - I don't have those chemicals or thought pattern, so it really helps.

I agree. At first, I didn't think I learned much from the mini R talk, if that's what that was, last night. But, after having some time to think about it, I think she is, at a minimum, scared to rock the boat. Which my changes could be reaching her or she has had time to think about her decision, or both. No matter the reason, she didn't slam the door on the M last night and could have.

[iwantittowork]

Hey GIMA, and anyone else that can offer advice, I hope you don't mind a small threadjack.

I am looking for Tough Love advice for my mediation tomorrow, as It's clear I am not from the tough love camp yet.

If any of you can stop over and offer advice for me where to hold my line and where to give during negotiation, I would appreciate it..

[mishka422]

You fold laundry AND you help clean the house for your daughter's B-day party too??????? Be still my heart! There isn't a woman alive whose heart wouldn't melt in response to THOSE considerate actions.

OMG - I would have given anything for those kind of loving actions. Did you actually do these things without being directly asked to do them? Of your own accord? Not begrudgingly because she asked you....2, 3, 6 times? WOW! Tearing up now just thinking about it.......sniff, sniff.....