Gotta Keep Trying 2

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At Coach's suggestion that I have a small R talk, I broached the subject tonight while grilling dinner.

That guy.

I asked W if she was comfortable with SIL and step-mother coming to the party tomorrow. She said she had not talked to them in "6 months." W said she was "fine" to be around them.

Beware of "fine". Don't know about Mrs. GIMA but for me, when I said "fine", I meant, "I want to be fine; I might be fine; I might not be fine and it's vague enough that if I'm not fine, I can crawdad on it." Fine might only mean 'fine' if it turns out to be fine. Down with that??? But 'fine' presents GIMA with an opp. Throughout the event that Mrs. GIMA is ... fine with, check in with her. Have her back. Be her friend at the party. Show her and everyone who you are With. I would EAT THAT UP.

She asked if they had any problem being around her and whether SIL said anything at the game S and I went to with my brother and SIL last night. I said no.

See? She's worried about this.

I told W I was sure they would be nice to her and there would not be a problem. And they will be polite. W said she was going to be so busy she wouldn't have time to be awkward.

And if they misbehave, you know what to do...right?

At one point, she thanked me for cooking dinner as I was walking down the hallway while she was in teh kitchen- I faintly heard her but she did not know I did. A few minutes later, I came back into the kitchen, and she thanked me again, thinking I had not heard her the first time.

She cares.

So, I spoent most of the evening vacuuming, dusting and helping straighten the house for D's party tomorrow.

You care.

So, what to make of the mini R discussion, which I don't think it was. But, she had an opportunity to slam the door on any reconciliation talk, and she didn't. And come to think of it, the problem is, I don't know what our "current situation" even is. Does she?

Probably not. She is probably cautious. Scared. Doesn't want to make a mistake. Sounds like you, too.



FYI, both of our sons are at LSU. That's what all of the worship and taunting was about

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