Okay, so tonight we talked again, about our daughters b-day in a week and a half.
We agreed that we want to all go out to dinner, for the kids, and leave it at that.
The conversation turns to how the kids are handling the news, etc.. Conversation is civil and fine.
Then she mentions people knowing and how difficult it is that I am "telling everyone". I told her that I have told a total of 7 people, including those in my family (4 of the 7). I didn't say this, but what is ironic is that one of our major problems is that I don't talk. I don't let my feelings out.
She says she feels like "the bad guy" and that people just assume that because I am sad that it is all her fault. I did explain that the people I have talked to have all heard the same thing...this is a mutual decision, my wife is a wonderful person, I made mistakes, she tried to correct them, I wasn't receptive, this is not her fault...
She then says "I just didn't think you'd get over this so quickly". I guess that is the phrase I am supposed to be working toward hearing....but it hurt. I'm not over her, not by a long shot...but she thinks I am. Again, that is the DB goal, right? I told her that it isn't easy for me, but I have to face the reality...we are seeing an attorney on Monday.
She then got upset and said that she couldn't talk anymore, that she never thought that 11 years of marriage could be "gotten over" so quickly and she was hanging up because she was mad.
So, tell me...is this a good thing, or a bad thing? I honestly have no idea.
