I definately think the best and one of the hardest things to do right now is give him a ton of space. Don't ask him questions. Let him feel SAFE around you. Go out at least 1x/week without him. Even after he leaves, make sure you have some Jackie time.
You know my sitch and my mom actually tells me to tell my H that she loves him. My mom is an amazing woman and feels that my H is lost. She wants to show him that she still loves him, etc... I know that is probably hard for most people to do but if your family can't say anything "nice" than they really should say nothing.
It sounds like you are really doing a great job. Isn't it amazing the strength that God gives us???!!!
