D5"s birthday party is tomorrow. My step-mother and SIL are coming and they have not spoken with W since the bomb. At Coach's suggestion that I have a small R talk, I broached the subject tonight while grilling dinner.
I asked W if she was comfortable with SIL and step-mother coming to the party tomorrow. She said she had not talked to them in "6 months." W said she was "fine" to be around them. She asked if they had any problem being around her and whether SIL said anything at the game S and I went to with my brother and SIL last night. I said no. I told her I do not talk to SIL or step-mother very much either and that I didn't think they would have a problem being around her. But, I just wanted to be sure it would be ok for W since it could be awkward for her, SIL and step-mother, "given the current situation." I told W I was sure they would be nice to her and there would not be a problem. And they will be polite. W said she was going to be so busy she wouldn't have time to be awkward.
I did hope she would launch into where we stand. But, that didn't happen. No sweat.
W did not seem angry or hurt or pull back tonight. If anything, I have been a bit quiet. W spoke to me throughout the night, made jokes.
At one point, she thanked me for cooking dinner as I was walking down the hallway while she was in teh kitchen- I faintly heard her but she did not know I did. A few minutes later, I came back into the kitchen, and she thanked me again, thinking I had not heard her the first time.
So, I spoent most of the evening vacuuming, dusting and helping straighten the house for D's party tomorrow.
So, what to make of the mini R discussion, which I don't think it was. But, she had an opportunity to slam the door on any reconciliation talk, and she didn't. And come to think of it, the problem is, I don't know what our "current situation" even is. Does she?
Oddly, I was not nervous to discuss what we did.
Part of me is a little angry she didn't bring up our R. Is she scared to discuss it?
