Ok, I am NOT suggesting there is something deficient with her or a WAS (and note I said WAS and not WAW). What I am inartfully trying to say is that it appears that a WAS is guided by what they feel, their emotions, more than a well thought out plan. That's not to say the WAS does not have a plan. My perception is just that the WAS may be influenced more than most by emotion.
Now, that said, I am not discounting the LBS' role in getting the M to where it is. I am also not suggesting the WAS does not have reason to feel the way they do.
So, if I gave the impression the WAS is flawed somehow, that was not my intent.
It seems to me the dynamic b/wthe logical spouse and emotional spouse changes one to the other throughout this process.
