Update H said he's been "burnt out" and knowing that this contributes to his screaming addiction, I told him last night that he could have whatever space he wanted this weekend, andI'll have S5 the rest of the time. What else can I do? I don't want to resist the sep. I want to show him that I'm fine without him and not pressure him. Also, I fear more outbursts, so I'm letting him make his own choices so he can't blame me. The problem is that he is trying so hard to avoid me. It hurts .He's constantly on the phone/web contraption, and says "I'll take S5 so you can go do other stuff. Well I don't want to do other stuff. I want my S to have "family time". But I am not going to pressure him to be with me if he isn't interested.
This is my 180 = from even a few weeks ago where I took every chance possible to be together as a "family." I am detaching more.
It's still hard, but I'm doing better. It hurts to have him always on the phone thing, not talking to me, or gone from the house. I know one reason he is "so stressed" is that he is a workaholic to avoid looking at the situation we're in!~!!
anyhow, trying to just not pressure him. It still hurts to see that when I pull back, he just doesn't notice or care. Maybe in months he will. Gosh I hope I can stand it.
