Over the Shock and GALing 6

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I understand my wife's point of view. I understand my wife feels the way she does.

I also understand GIMA's point of view. I understand he feels the way he does.

Sort yourself out on that one, though, b/c it matters how you go forward. Are you going to deal with your wife as if she is a person who is hurt, angry, confused, lost - whatever you understand about her particular sitch to be- and show her compassion? Or are you going to move forward dealing with her as somone who is in a temporary mental state that precludes her from making reasonable decisions whereby her decisions are made based on flawed or deficient mental capacity?

It's imporatant. Coach told me that the key to what he did to improve our
R while we were separated was to have and show compassion to me. Rather than say, "Wow - 'O' is really in a fog, not thinking straight, messed up, needs to snap out of this...", he proceeded with "Wow - "O" has reasons and feelings for what she says and does" and he based his moves on the latter.

You know more about this than me, that's for sure. I'm just chiming in as someone whose been on the other team. But I'm on your side, too

Go LSU.
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