Was this a problem in your marriage? Did you put her down, or make comments that made her feel she wasn't beautiful?
Someone that goes out with men to make herself "feel beautiful" obviously has some drastic self-esteem issues - issues that won't be addressed and resolved by you playing to them.
Anytime, you are attempting to change her, you are probably doomed to failure.
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it might be enough to soften her heart toward me
If you want this to happen - be a man, be strong, do the right thing. That will soften her heart, and soften it legitimately - don't try to play out things to MAKE her soften her heart.
Trust a 3-year veteran - the only things that have worked have been when I completely separated my efforts from what I thought would "change" my W. It is counter-intuitive, but it's true.
