My sitch...long but please indulge me

[billclay18]

I think it's hard to justify because you seem to be handling things so well already...

This statement made me think...why am I handling this so well?

Here's my conclusion:

1. I wasn't completely surprised by this. My W was unhappy for a while and try as I did, there was nothing I could do about it.

2. Unlike most folks on this site, I've been thru this before. It sucks and it's painful, but I know I'll get past it, move on and be happy...regardless of the outcome.

3. Other than struggling to pay the mortgage, there are no financial ramifications for me.

4. We have no kids together, so there are no custody issues. Although I love and miss my stepD's, they're old enough to decide for themselves what, if any, relationship they want to have with me.

5. If the D does happen...once it's over, it's over. My W will no longer be a part of my life any way, shape or form unless I want her to be.