Man, I am sorry you are where you are. It sucks. And you just have to let it run uts course.
No question this is devastating to one's self-esteem.
But, here is the problem (logically speaking) with your last post:
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I understand where you're coming from givingitmyall. But, under the circumstances, my self-worth has been devastated. If I'm worth anything...then why would she leave? Then, after making the changes that I did...if I'm worth anything, why would she choose to divorce me?
You are assuming you are dealing with a well adjusted, reasonable "SHE." And a WAS is not any of those things. They are illogical, emotionally driven creatures. Not "thought" driven, "feel" driven. They go with what they feel.
I don't expect that to make you feel any better (I know it wouldn't me), but that is the truth IMHO.
All the questions you are asking above are valid. It's just that the questions assume your W is reasonable and can see through her fog to notice what WE all know is obvious.
