Kids just dont understand. I know it hurts when they say things like that. My son has made several comments that have hurt my feelings. One thing you have to remember...The children see you as a parent, and your H as a friend. You are the one that diciplines them, makes sure the homework is done etc, etc. I am assuming that your H doesn't do much of that.
Right now your kids like dad. They only see the fun side of dad, like a friend. It might not be very comforting, but they will appreciate you someday. I'm not too far removed from the time that I "figured it out" and gained a whole lot of respect for my parents.
I also whitnessed this watching a cousin of mine grow up. She is 16 now. Her dad left when she was a baby. He moved to Florida shortly there after. She only saw him once a year when her mother would take a vacation and take her to see her daddy. He never paid a dime of child support and never made any attempt to get together with his daughter. While growing up, she was all about daddy, and I could see how it hurt my aunt. Now that she is more mature, she realizes what has been going on, and she doesn't care too much for him anymore. It's sad that HE caused his own daughter to feel this way about him.
They will appreciate you Jackie.
FLoyd The grass is always GREENER over the septic tank.
