Over the Shock and GALing 6

[antlers]

No doubt that is true. The problem IMHO, is that we male the mistake (me too) of allowing our self-worth to originate solely from our W and kids. And I think that is a big mistake. Our self worth is exactly that - what WE believe OUR worht is to OURSELVES. It can only be true self worth if it originates, and resides in, us. It cannot come from anywhere else or it isn't self worth, b/c its dependent upon something beyond our control. Hope I didn't lose anyone.

Point is for us to be healthy, we have to be able to be happy by ourselves and with ourselves. That cannot, therefore depend on anything or anyone ELSE.

I understand where you're coming from givingitmyall. But, under the circumstances, my self-worth has been devastated. If I'm worth anything...then why would she leave? Then, after making the changes that I did...if I'm worth anything, why would she choose to divorce me? This is the way I feel right now, and I can't stop thinking about it. I understand self-worth is what you say it is...what WE think OUR worth is to OURSELVES. But, it's hard to bolster it up when you get such overwhelming rejection from someone whom you know once loved you. What you say makes sense, and I believe it to be true...it's just hard to do sometimes. Self-worth gets hammered in situations like these.

Your last sentence is just as true, I believe...just hard to realize that under the circumstances.


ps - thanks for taking the time.