Amy- I'm just curious. Do you think the MLCer knows the OP is just a distraction? Or do they really believe that the OP is all those things they are missing?
MLCers aren't cognitively aware that the other person is distracting them from their real issues. That's why I said they're band-aids. They cover up the wounds that have the MLCer in this state of mind in the first place - further dragging out the process.
Your focus should not be on the other person. Or the affair. Or whatever other crazy crap your MLCer is doing/saying.
It needs to be on yourself. Read up on MLC all you want. But don't get caught up in analyzing the MLCer.
That is detrimental to your own well-being and if your spouse or significant other is indeed MLC, there's nothing you can do about it.
"Let anyone who thinks he stands take heed lest he fall" 1 Cor. 10:12
