The Thread With No Home

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Good morning, Jackie ~

((((Jackie))))

I think you're handling things very well. Have to run to work, but just a few quick things -

Sorry to hear about your experience with your pastor. We had a similar experience with our priest - won't go into details, but basically I no longer trust him at all (my H confided in him just after he moved out and it wasn't helpful.) Maybe there is another pastor nearby who you would feel more comfortable with. Don't know what faith you are, but in or town there are counselling services available through the Catholic church. I haven't heard anything about them, though, from anyone who has been there.

I know that comments from your sons hurt. The minute my H got home, he has been all our children have wanted, which is understandable, since he's been gone, but it still hurts to hear that they want their daddy to stay with them and want mommy to go to work. Try to depersonalize this too, although it's tough. I think they also are showing that they feel confortable expressing themselves with you. They know you're there for them.

You are doing great relating to your H. Letting him knoe he could stay and asserting that you can make your own decisions. I think it's also good that your H can separate his anger at your sister form anger at you. And that he can see how she could have such anger at him. Also, asking him about initiating sex was considerate and shows him that you are thinking of his feelings. I also think it's important that he said you've been a saint through all this. Because you have been. It's good that he can see this through the fog.

Maybe when you're feeling a little more steady, come up with some goals for you and the children? Not pushing, just an idea.

Hope today is better. ((((Jackie))))

Hope your little one is better soon.

P.S. I dreamed night before last that you, holdingon and I were at some sort of arts festival! Pretty funny. My bb friends are on my mind!