the best thing is the smile from a pretty girl, THAT IS THE ABSOLUTE BEST!!!!
Ok, he's someone that needs external validation. How about reframing it in your head to mean "Wow, look at what an attracive H I have, how lucky am I that he's with me?" Any affair of course changes things, but if it just pumps his ego, perhaps you could find a different way to do this. Some people are more comfotable having friendships with the opposite sex. I was to a great extent. When H was still here I didn't do those things b/c I felt it was inappropriate. So, I have found women friends that I hold very dear.
I understand that you're upset at the loss of the job. I have to say though, when I was a hiring manager, that would not have been an issue for me (I can imagine it would be in certain tyoes of jobs though).
Having said that though, don't be angry or bitter about it. Just move on. The next opportunity will be just as good or better.
