Thanks Julia...but I think it just made me more mad than anything. He went behind my back to work his past due mortgage into our bankrutpcy, which we both pay 50/50 for every month, and then expects me to cover half of it.
I honestly have half a mind to go through to paperwork and total up each of our separate bills. I realize this won't do any good, but I am so sick to death of being blamed for this. I sent several emails after that (and for THAT matter...blah blah). I was so mad that he would just get four to six months behind on HIS mortgage, and KNOWING I was just getting on my feet would expect me to be "understanding" and cover his payment. Screw that. I had to point out that there have been several times when I have needed him and he was not "understanding."
What's good for the goose is good for the gander. I think he is realizing that I don't need him...he is not happy...and he basically f*cked his life.
Not my problem anymore.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
I dont know how things are over there but I believe separating finances should be your goal right now. Or that's irrelevant? I am sorry, I have no clue how things work in US. K
I agree. You're building a new life, you shouldn't be bogged down with his financial troubles. It's been a long time since he walked. Let him be responsible for his own choices. You need to take care of yourself and your DD. It's time to wrap up the loose ends. Finances.... Divorce filing..... It may be time to stop waiting for him to do anything and take charge.
I'm mad too. Must be in the fall air. Let's use it before we lose it!
We really have separated out all the finances and debts. I am not responsible for his, he is not responsible for mine. No joint bank account, nada.
The bankruptcy is really the only joint thing we have, and unfortunately that is reviewed through the Federal Court system, so there is really not much I can do about that, except what I did was make damned sure that the attorney knows I am not paying for Andy's portion.
In the meantime, because I moved to New York State, I have to wait two years before I can file for a divorce here. But...I think what I may do is file it in Texas, and if I have to I will just fly down there for the final hearing and get it done myself. Screw this, it is too much of a pain in the behind to depend on him do to anything.
Although I did give him until the end of this month, and there is another part of me, that sadistic part, that is actually enjoying see him fail. I am not sure if that is a good thing, but I am also enjoying just rubbing his nose in it a little bit.
'M I bad?
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
If ur bad, I must be too. A year ago my xh was trying to contact me but I no longer take his calls... {cuz he's a wanker.} He left a message that he'd had a stroke and was facing a long recovery and was probably going to have to quit his career in finance. I didn't call him back. The news didn't exactly make me happy. But I truly didn't care, in fact I enjoyed that he was having a miserable time. And when my friend saw him out recently I asked if he seemed permanently affected physically and she said he seemed normal.... I was nearly disappointed. Whatever came his way, he deserved it. Whatever befalls him, I don't care. So I'm a badass also. Now, what's the cocktail tonight? More fancy martinis?
Well hellzzz bellzzz of COURSE you're bad! If you weren't, I wouldn't have found yer thread!
Now quit second guessing yourself for being offended when you're being screwed .
Peace out!
Hey!! Thanks...it was satisfying and I am glad to see you found my thread!!!!
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
RR: Yes...there are several ways to make martinis and I think we should celebrate Friday and get chit faced!!!
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
If ur bad, I must be too. A year ago my xh was trying to contact me but I no longer take his calls... {cuz he's a wanker.} He left a message that he'd had a stroke and was facing a long recovery and was probably going to have to quit his career in finance. I didn't call him back. The news didn't exactly make me happy. But I truly didn't care, in fact I enjoyed that he was having a miserable time. And when my friend saw him out recently I asked if he seemed permanently affected physically and she said he seemed normal.... I was nearly disappointed. Whatever came his way, he deserved it. Whatever befalls him, I don't care. So I'm a badass also. Now, what's the cocktail tonight? More fancy martinis?
rinse, you ARE bad!!! WOW!!!
Lola, you are not that bad yet, getting there though!! LOL K
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