Bbj, I tried the friendly approach, the year before last while at the same time I was telling him I was ready to divorce (you were there, remember?)... It may had the effect I wanted to create, doubts, second thoughts etc, but that was all it got me. I honestly believe if I had then at some point given him some tough love, things would have been different now...
Yes me and Bbj are stupid to be fighting for so long for 2 men that obviously dont deserve us. But we chose and loved these men and sometimes things are complicated in our heads and hearts. And I think we both have reached a point where our heads are being heard by our hearts. We realise they are not good for us and we are slowly taking the next step.
Despite of what I have said here many times before, I dont regret holding on to this relationship. Maybe I will, in ten years from now, but how can you regret being honest and true to your feelings?
Bbj, I know you dont want to divorce. But what else can you do? K
