ALK, I think you on to something but I'd add it goes further than that. What are these expectations? Were do they come from? Are you talking about preconceived notions of what roles people will play in a relationship?
I think it is more about feelings and even in my sitch I was cognizant of the variables...I just couldn't deal with the feelings that were consistently conjured. And neither of us did enough work (at the same time) to keep some modicum of satisfaction going.
