Has she never said it any way? I said it so much to H but he really didn't hear it or remember it because of his own insecurities of not being able to provide enough.
I can only think of one time. I went to a retreat and the retreat organizers asked her to send me a letter while I was there telling me what she appreciated. I got a VERY short letter that said (in effect)"Thank you for providing for our family".
Other than that, all I can think of is complaints that I didn't come home early enough, wasn't there for her, didn't help out enough with the kids, etc.
I think it is mostly her inability to get past her own negative feelings and feel/show appreciation. In the past I have had rather bizarre conversations with her in which she both criticized me for not helping out enough around the house or with the kids (when I actually do a lot) and in the same conversation glowingly praised a friends husband for being the perfect father and husband when I know for a fact that he does nothing to help out and works even longer hours.
Just venting a bit - I'm getting tired of it.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
