I'm so sorry this is happening STronger. I don't know if this is the case for you = take it with a grain of salt if not - but I find this to be true in my sitch. Whether consciously or not, my H will throw roadblocks in my way to "test" whether I will flip out. When I flip out, he can point the finger at me and not have to take responsibility for his own ambiguity.
Stronger, is it possible he does these things to give you the ultimate test? In other words, not intentionally, but to actually try to push you to your personal edge of flipping out to see if you can stay strong? It's not fair, but they often do this.
How about saying this to him "Take care of this NOW and there's no problem. Until the Lawyers are alerted to our new situation, let's just have some space. I need to cool way down." This will show him you are dealing with your own feelings and insisting he take responsibility for his own crazy indecisions.
You are totally validated in your feelings. Totally. But, expressing the anger to him will push him away. He needs to take this action on his own. He needs to do this for himself and for you.
