"You are still the same manipulative person that you have always been. You haven't changed and you never will. It's all about you." It's almost like she needs to keep herself convinced of that in order to justify her actions. It seems like she needs to keep hating me to make herself feel better about what she is doing.
This is an entirely plausible reading of the situation. Given that, accept that at this point there may be nothing you can or could do. If she is fighting with some animal in her own head or continuing to fight in the past, there's nothing you can do to fix it; time or a sea change in her perceptions are the only hope you have.
OTOH, if you do have a history of manipulative behavoir (can't recall the details of your sitch), it takes a long time to ditch those habits completely. So be open to making tweaks in communication, etc, but again, you're only human.
I know it's easier said than done, but try to detach your family/marital status from your self-worth as an individual. Hurt, but don't hate yourself for it. You tried and are trying and continue to seek counsel; what more can you ask of yourself?
Last edited by Kettricken; 10/03/0904:41 PM.
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