Oh yes, cuz nice hot rich guys are eagerly seeking older women with two kids.
What's at the top of your list of qualities you look for in a man? Hot? Rich? Certainly big pluses, but isn't his capacity to love, to care, to make your needs as important as his, to be a good husband and father more important?
It may be you live in the superficial capital of the US, and live primarily in an even more superficial milieu within that city. Don't let that make you lose track of what is most important in life.
Pearl made a great post. She is totally right, and her wisdom will guide her in the right direction for her happiness.
Originally Posted By: pearlharbr
IMHO, don't try to beat out the OW. I tried the whole "be the better option" thing and it just didn't work for me. In the end I decided if the whore wants him then she can have him. If she's willing to steal a man and settle for a man who cheats on his partner then she's got big problems of her own. And I deserve better. And Dudess deserves better. And AAK deserves better.
I don't think AAK is looking for the next serious R, nor do I think she should be. Dudess, you're right about looking at the important qualities in a mate but IMO AAK just needs a good rebound fling (or two) to show her that not all men are as messed up as her H and to have some fun again.
Come to think of it, I think that's what all LBS should get out of dating other people. I know that's what it was for me. I certainly did not want to get involved with another man, just revel in the flattery and flirting, knowing that other men do want me.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
Exactly. My values are family and character and connection first.
However, I am not even divorced and I do not want to intertwine with another in a way that clouds my feelings and experience of dissolving my marriage.
When I am divorced and "done" completely, I will open my heart to the kind of man I could consider spending my life with at most and at least even potentially having my children around...that's a while away for me. I am thrilled that I am not in the position H is in. If I was in love with another, it would never feel clean or clear. He must live with that.
So, ironically, I am attracted to creative, impulsive, busy guys who wont require much of me. But, they tend to want sex rapido...and I really don't want to be intimate with risky guys (risky physically and emotionally)...what to do?
I'm supposed to hang out with the adorable comedian guy tomorrow night...and since we aren't in it to find mates, what do you think he's in it for?
I have to find the right balance. Plus, worse thing is, I'm kind of on fire here and doubt I'll find it easy to control myself.
I can say this is a welcome distraction from thinking about the massive betrayal and heartbreak I have experienced (I think I've spent enough time tearing my guts out over that)...
Sorry for the hijack. But grateful for the conversation.
AAK - you don't know genius comedy writer is only in it for quick sex. Perhaps he just enjoyed your company, found you attractive, witty and fun to be around so he wants to be around you some more. Not far fetched as far as I can tell. And even if he is just looking for a roll in the hay it certainly doesn't mean you have to give it to him.
When I was out mingling I just assumed that the guys who were flirting with me wanted to get me into bed. So I didn't take any of them seriously and just enjoyed it for what it was. I was getting what I wanted (positive attention) and they got the opportunity to talk to me!
It's just casual dating, not looking for a life partner. I think if you go into it with the mindset that this is just another fun GAL activity and/or practicing a skill you haven't used in a while then it won't be such a big deal.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
Oh, believe me, I do...and I have serious self control problems in that area. I say bring a condom or two with you just in case. But then again, I'm a bad influence.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
Yep, just so different having kids and being a mom and thinking about how I treat my body...who I expose myself to (literally and figuratively)...I can see myself kind of objectively and I don't want to give it away so easily.
