Going straight forward...antlers 5th thread.

[antlers]

Antlers,

I could have written your last post myself. It is almost exactly the same things I have heard and seen for the past 10 months. In that respect, your not alone. I feel for you, I really do, I am looking for support myself in this time.

We have to stop reacting to what our WAW's are doing, and take the lead for ourselves, whatever that is. I wished I could offer advice on what that is, but I have not found it myself yet. Keep looking, there is happiness for us out there, if we make it happen!

Right now, things will be tough, we have to accept that, and move through day by day, minute by minute at times. For our kids, and ourselves. We can not control, nor fix, nor change our WAW's. We have to acknowledge that as well.

I know you have heard all this before, and so have I. It doesn't help with how you may feel in this instant. What will Antler's life look like when he has no-one to answer to but himself and his kids?

iwantittowork,
thank you for being here and responding. It's a very painful situation that I'm in now. Full of regret and remorse, and a HUGE sense of loss! I know in my heart that I've acknowledged my failures fully and accepted 100% responsibility for them, that I've been deeply remorseful and apologized and tried to make amends, and I went to work on myself and changed into a better man, a better father, and a better partner. What more could I have done? None of it has mattered to her...at all. I didn't do it 'for her', I did it because it needed to be done...period! But I retained hope that things might change. Given a second chance, I would have spent the rest of my life making it up to you. That chance has been taken away from me...and I am crushed because of it.

Coach's Stockdale Principle is something that I'm trying to take to heart.