The EA/PA - Should LBS proactively address it?

[peacetoday]

Hi
sorry you find yourself here
MY opinion is (from my experience) and I am not a sucess story as MY xh M OW is I dont think It matters which way you go
some of us have really tried all these techniques maybe in different order with the same results-- no restoration
In the begining its important to try something..stick with it
The DB counselor said to me
Does that technique seem to be working to make the situation worse or better
If better continue
if worse try another
so IN the begining I tried the letting go approach
I supported H
I was affirming validaing kind
this definitwely opoened the door for a positive and closer interaction b/c H felt safe
But he still chose OW over me
this went on for probably 1.5 years he moved out and visited 4 time week
hung out here
we talked a lot
but he never came back
after time I tried other techniques
I became no contact
which made the R distant
nothing worked for me
but now in the end he M OW
we rarely talk
we work together
I have totally let him go
but im open for a friendship..but he doesnt seem to be able to stay consistant enough for a friendship
I am still cordial and validating when appropriate
but much more confrontive especially about financial stuff and our business together
make suer youe fianances are in order b/c if to much focus is on saving M or getting H back, we LBD ca get screwwed fianancially bu these WAS they spend it all on OW they sre not the same
and some will never return to normal..or the man we once M
Peace