Obsessive me, I keep checking for "solutions." One thing I keep coming across the "I agree with the breakup" mental judo stuff.

I can see this backfiring easily. I also have a big problem lying. It seems interesting but seems to involve a long-term commitment to strategic manipulation. I don't know how comfortable I could be doing that. I don't want to con my W.

Does anyone have any experience with this?

~Mark

Me: 38
W: 34
Together: 9yrs
1st M: may '03
1st D: april '08
1st bomb: june '08
remarried: oct '08
2nd bomb: aug '09 --(W asked for D one week into 3 mo. trial separation which was meant to save our M)